I gave hubby our "State of our State" address yesterday and as touched on in my No Refi entry, it did not go well. He really wants me to go to work full time and I am dead set againist it. I want to raise my kids myself! I know I have not been the best steward of our money, but we are not living in a cardboard box! I make our payments on-time and pay more every month. Yes, vet bills were a killer, but should I have just paid $60 to have her put down instead of $500 to keep her alive? No dental insurance last year and $3000 in dental bills, should I have put DD down? I'm not saying its all bills and no "Junk". But everytime we overspent eating out, you can bet his butt was in the chair next to mine eating his fill! I am reflecting on Priceplus and his struggles and wonder if this is how my husband sees me? As a giant spend thrift? He buys for himself when he wants, I buy for 5 people and 3 pets. Why is everything my "fault?" I am trying to bring it around, yes we have had greater CC debt before we have had to pull ourselves out of (all my fault before, I'm sure), but now things are under control. Yes, we have debt, but we are okay! Food on the table. He keeps saying now that I am going to kill him, having to work to keep up with my "extravagant" lifestyle. I do not buy clothes, get my haircut, get manicures, have huge stashes of "stuff" that I bought for no reason. When I do buy clothes, I go to the thrift store, my girls have some new things, but mostly hand me downs and garage sale stuff. Sorry, I just needed to vent! I'm having a pity party!
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April 28th, 2006 at 05:12 am
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April 28th, 2006 at 12:09 pm 1146226198
I would seriously look into the two income trap, or another book on the cost of having two jobs. It might help your DH to see the figures that sending you to work isn't going to help.
How old are your girls?
April 28th, 2006 at 12:58 pm 1146229116
http://www.crown.org/Tools/mommake.asp
I havn't used it though so I don't know how good it is.
April 28th, 2006 at 01:39 pm 1146231548
April 28th, 2006 at 02:31 pm 1146234716
My girls are 8-11-13. Not old enough in my eyes to watch themselves on a daily basis for 9 or 10 hours. This is my dream job, the only one I wanted when I was growing up and I can only have it for a short time and I'm GOOD at it. (Except on those days when you feel like the worst parent in the world!:-) )
My next plan of action is to have HIM call around and look for daycare for them for this summer. Let him find out !
I am working part time now, but they had cut my hours back severely, so it is not like I have'nt been contributing anything!
Okay, enough more rant for today!
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