There you go, all the cards are cut up! Seems like such a tiny pile compared to the HUGE amount of debt on them!!
DH and I went round and round tonight. I guess we made peace with this weeks paycheck. I have BEGGED him to go grocery shopping, but to no avail. But he did say he will take DD3 to get her glasses this weekend. That will help greatly and I won't have to justify the cost.
I'm still working, working, working! Hope it will help us make a dent! Things at home sure get messy and crazy when I am gone, and dinners sure can be a challenge. I told DH tomorrow HE has to make dinner!
July 19th, 2008 at 01:07 pm 1216472851
Are you trying to get your husband to go shopping so he can get a realistic idea of what things really cost these days and how it is getting more challenging to stretch the grocery budget? If so, what if you just showed him the groceries when you got home and told him the total amount?
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July 19th, 2008 at 02:55 pm 1216479315
Good going on getting husband to do the trip for the glasses. His steps may be little, but they are steps nonetheless. scfr's idea above is great for the groceries. No more 'head in the sand' for him.
I can relate to what you're saying about working and the state of the house! Remember that you are probably not the one that is making it that way. I'm always reminding my crew that I'm not the maid - ha! I still get a little nostalgic for when I was home and things were under my control, but I'm learning to be a bit more relaxed about it all - oh, and lots of deep cleansing breaths and occasional de-stressing walks help too. Best wishes to you!
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You go girl!
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July 21st, 2008 at 09:08 pm 1216674496
Is your husband putting himself on a strict budget too? If he's not being completely transparent about his spending, then you've got a problem and he is probably going to keep you guys from paying down debt.
For gosh sake, you're working most days now too, so YES he needs to cook dinner when you're out, and do some chores too while he's at it.
Good luck pulling his head the rest of the way out of the sand--you're a more patient woman than I!
July 26th, 2008 at 05:52 am 1217051531
One other thing-- to me, a $50 number sounds like the sort of thing that people come up with when they haven't crunched the numbers. I'm sure you've already thought of this, but-- the two of you would be setting yourselves up for better success if you really went through all of your current spending and sorted out what could be reduced/eliminated. Also, you might need to think about some likely if-thens. For example, if you get a job interview, you might need to spend more on gas that week.
I just think that you'd have better chances of creating a workable system if you could both sit down, take emotions out of the equation as much as possible, and figure things out together. I'm sure I'm not telling you anything new... it's just that I was so struck by your recent posts, and I really hope that things between you two get better soon. It's such a tough situation for you.