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They are gone..... wanna see??

July 19th, 2008 at 04:35 am

There you go, all the cards are cut up! Seems like such a tiny pile compared to the HUGE amount of debt on them!!

DH and I went round and round tonight. I guess we made peace with this weeks paycheck. I have BEGGED him to go grocery shopping, but to no avail. But he did say he will take DD3 to get her glasses this weekend. That will help greatly and I won't have to justify the cost.

I'm still working, working, working! Hope it will help us make a dent! Things at home sure get messy and crazy when I am gone, and dinners sure can be a challenge. I told DH tomorrow HE has to make dinner! Smile

11 Responses to “They are gone..... wanna see??”

  1. scfr Says:

    Good for you!!!

    Are you trying to get your husband to go shopping so he can get a realistic idea of what things really cost these days and how it is getting more challenging to stretch the grocery budget? If so, what if you just showed him the groceries when you got home and told him the total amount?

  2. aevans1206 Says:

    I'm sending good karma vibes your way. At least one battle won here.

  3. littlegopher Says:

    Go, Boo!!

    Good going on getting husband to do the trip for the glasses. His steps may be little, but they are steps nonetheless. scfr's idea above is great for the groceries. No more 'head in the sand' for him.

    I can relate to what you're saying about working and the state of the house! Remember that you are probably not the one that is making it that way. I'm always reminding my crew that I'm not the maid - ha! I still get a little nostalgic for when I was home and things were under my control, but I'm learning to be a bit more relaxed about it all - oh, and lots of deep cleansing breaths and occasional de-stressing walks help too. Best wishes to you!

  4. koppur Says:

    Keep at it Sunshine. You're doing great and you have some good ieas. One question: you were talking about getting a mon-fri job then working part time evenings and weekends...what about hubby getting a part time job? Also, I am a little concerned that he has you on an allowance, yet you do all the finances, and he thinks YOU got the both of you in seems like he is playing the blame and control game...please excuse me if that was out of line, but I am just concered.

  5. tt Says:

    What expenses can you cut out? Cable?

  6. frugaltexan75 Says:

    Yay Boo! Way to take charge and make steps forward!

    You go girl!

  7. JanH Says:

    My mother used to say she had two jobs. One working outside the home and another full time working inside the home. Kudos to you for keeping your sanity while doing so much! I am glad your DH is going to take your DD to get her glasses. He'll probably fall down when he has to pay for them himself. It will be good for him. Don't let him turn it around and tell you he did a cheaper or better job than you did in the past. That's deflecting the responsibility for things back onto you alone. No way!

  8. Broken Arrow Says:

    Congrats! And a beautiful sight it is!

  9. monkeymama Says:

    Still sending you good thoughts. Congrats on the cards!

  10. ceejay74 Says:

    Congrats on the cards!

    Is your husband putting himself on a strict budget too? If he's not being completely transparent about his spending, then you've got a problem and he is probably going to keep you guys from paying down debt.

    For gosh sake, you're working most days now too, so YES he needs to cook dinner when you're out, and do some chores too while he's at it.

    Good luck pulling his head the rest of the way out of the sand--you're a more patient woman than I! Smile

  11. Bella Says:

    Do please answer Ceejay's question about whether your husband is on a budget, too. I can just imagine such an unhappy home atmosphere if he's essentially stepping in but only to the extent of imposing things on you. I hope that things aren't quite so bad as I'm picturing.

    One other thing-- to me, a $50 number sounds like the sort of thing that people come up with when they haven't crunched the numbers. I'm sure you've already thought of this, but-- the two of you would be setting yourselves up for better success if you really went through all of your current spending and sorted out what could be reduced/eliminated. Also, you might need to think about some likely if-thens. For example, if you get a job interview, you might need to spend more on gas that week.

    I just think that you'd have better chances of creating a workable system if you could both sit down, take emotions out of the equation as much as possible, and figure things out together. I'm sure I'm not telling you anything new... it's just that I was so struck by your recent posts, and I really hope that things between you two get better soon. It's such a tough situation for you.

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