Soooo, time for DH to be paid. I was'nt going to be the bad guy this time. He said there would be a $500 bonus on this check and started making suggestions on what we could do with it. I pulled out the lovely "purple book" that houses our calendar and list of bills. I told him we had to sit down and I would show him what I am slated to pay out of this check. I also showed him my "wish list" of things I would LIKE to pay. That deflated his balloon. Plus I showed him exactly what we owe on everything and how the debt had grown in the last 2 years. He could'nt focus on it for too long, but it was the beginning of the eye opener. I also told him what I have slated to pay out of my check next week. Oh, and how we will have almost nothing left to buy groceries and gas with. At least he can't say he doesn't know what is going on with our money!! Refreshing...
Progress with DH!
March 13th, 2009 at 07:50 pm
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That's a start. We are in need of repair to the roof (basically one floor in total) which has been quoted at $3,500 versus $6,200 for a whole tear-off and redo of the whole thing. I told DH if I didn't need to spend an additional $2,700, I wasn't going to. Brown shingles will match up to brown shingles. That sort of stopped him - wondering where the money was going to come from.
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March 14th, 2009 at 06:39 am 1237012746
A new tractor? "How are we going to pay for it?"
Me stay home instead of getting a new job? "How are we going to pay for it?"
Move out of town and to the farm (where there currently is no house)? "How are we going to pay for it?"
Another pickup? "How are we going to pay for it?"
More cows? "How are we going to pay for it?"
You get the point. That way, I'm not having to say no all the time. And if the answer is "the bank will loan us the money, and we'll sell _____ to make the payment" at least we will have a solid plan to get it paid off.
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