I DID NOT fall off the face of the earth!! How about that?!
Our financial situation has been so bad, I have been so baffled that I couldn't talk about it. Actually, I don't know HOW to talk about it. If I try to think about things for too long, I get too confused and I want to barf. Soooo... I have been "head down, making it day to day" for a long time. Because DH has not had a paying job since April, nor has he tried to get one, I have lived on the queasy stomach precipice, and hope to not fall off. No, I do not know his reasons, and no I am not going to leave him or divorce him, but no, I can't go through this alone. So I struggle. Maybe I can get it together and start to talk about it again, but failure hurts.
Anyhoo, been in touch with some SA friends on FB, and I sure do appreciate their friendship! Thrifty Ray is one of my BFF's even though we have never met! And I love keeping in touch with Keeping it Frugal, Mom from Missouri, Price Plus, Homebody and MJRube!! :-)
Hope everyone in SA land is doing well! I have been stalking and some of you are doing wonderful things!! Keep up the good work!
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So glad to see that you're around! As much as all this money stuff sucks (sorry for the word, but it is fitting), sometimes all you can do is take it day by day. Good for you for standing by your man -- as difficult as it can be. I do hope that he is willing to share the burden with you. I second what creditcardfree says, see if you can talk to a counselor/minister. Does your church offer any type of financial classes (Dave Ramsey or an equivalent). DH and I took one of those sponsored by our parish and while it didn't solve anything, it did open up communication and got us to a place of "shared vision". ((hugs))
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I agree that your husband is probably depressed and feels paralyzed. All I can say is, your frugal mindset is a gift that will help you get through. Keep doing those little things, and we'll all keep rooting for you!
October 26th, 2010 at 01:48 pm 1288097294
Take it from me, you are doing the right thing by coming back here for help and comradeship. I too often go numb to my financial problems, but I think a healthy monitoring of the situation is the way to go.
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Seriously though, I'm sorry to hear that things have been going so badly. Your one of the blogs I keep track of on here, simply because I've read about your predicament and am worried for your sake.
However, I am glad that you haven't fallen off the face of the internet. Hang in there!
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October 27th, 2010 at 05:24 pm 1288196690
Boo,
I'm so sorry to hear that things are going so badly. When I lost my benefits paying job, the only thing that kept me going was having the job at the gym. Otherwise, I might have fallen into an extreme depression.
I admire you for not letting your husbands inaction cause you to think of heading for greener pastures.
{{{Hugs}}}
October 30th, 2010 at 08:02 pm 1288465357
I will try to start posting again. I guess one misconception I have to clear up it that DH is WORKING (per se) he is just not GETTING PAID for it!! To me this is all the worse, because he could be working at a PAYING job which is what I am working on with him!!
BA- when I went to look you up, it directed me to someone named Tabitha. Eh?
October 31st, 2010 at 06:42 pm 1288550577
BA...whats the scoop??? Tabitha? Join us there if you want, we'd enjoy FBing with you!!!