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Guess What??

October 25th, 2010 at 07:41 pm

I DID NOT fall off the face of the earth!! How about that?!

Our financial situation has been so bad, I have been so baffled that I couldn't talk about it. Actually, I don't know HOW to talk about it. If I try to think about things for too long, I get too confused and I want to barf. Soooo... I have been "head down, making it day to day" for a long time. Because DH has not had a paying job since April, nor has he tried to get one, I have lived on the queasy stomach precipice, and hope to not fall off. No, I do not know his reasons, and no I am not going to leave him or divorce him, but no, I can't go through this alone. So I struggle. Maybe I can get it together and start to talk about it again, but failure hurts.

Anyhoo, been in touch with some SA friends on FB, and I sure do appreciate their friendship! Thrifty Ray is one of my BFF's even though we have never met! And I love keeping in touch with Keeping it Frugal, Mom from Missouri, Price Plus, Homebody and MJRube!! :-)

Hope everyone in SA land is doing well! I have been stalking and some of you are doing wonderful things!! Keep up the good work!

19 Responses to “Guess What??”

  1. Homebody Says:

    I am sorry Kathy. I know how depressed my BIL became after losing his job, it could be the problem with your DH.

  2. Ima saver Says:

    I am so sorry things are going so badly for you. I sure hope this economy picks up soon. My dh is without work also, but trying to do odd jobs to keep busy. Our thoughts are with you!!

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    ((Hugs)) Definitely nice to hear from you. Sure wish you had better news. But we are here with you along the way good or bad. Can you get counseling either professional or from a minister to help the two of you get through this rough spot?

  4. momcents Says:

    So glad to see that you're around! As much as all this money stuff sucks (sorry for the word, but it is fitting), sometimes all you can do is take it day by day. Good for you for standing by your man -- as difficult as it can be. I do hope that he is willing to share the burden with you. I second what creditcardfree says, see if you can talk to a counselor/minister. Does your church offer any type of financial classes (Dave Ramsey or an equivalent). DH and I took one of those sponsored by our parish and while it didn't solve anything, it did open up communication and got us to a place of "shared vision". ((hugs))

  5. scfr Says:

    It is good to hear from you. I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time.

  6. scottish girl Says:

    I'm sorry things are bad at the moment. Good to see you back on here Smile

  7. campfrugal Says:

    Oh, I would love to be friends with some of you on facebook. Praying that things turn around for you.

  8. CB in the City Says:

    Glad you're back! I was looking at the "retired" list the other day and was surprised to see you there.

    I agree that your husband is probably depressed and feels paralyzed. All I can say is, your frugal mindset is a gift that will help you get through. Keep doing those little things, and we'll all keep rooting for you!

  9. Ralph Says:

    Welcome back! I was perusing some old posts this fine morning and I wondered where you went.

    Take it from me, you are doing the right thing by coming back here for help and comradeship. I too often go numb to my financial problems, but I think a healthy monitoring of the situation is the way to go.

  10. MonkeyMama Says:

    Glad to see you are still around! Hang in there!

  11. Looking Forward Says:

    Glad to see your post. Sorry to hear the not-great-news. Keep plugging along..Good luck! Smile

  12. Broken Arrow Says:

    What? You guys have all banded up on FB and didn't invite me even though I don't really use FB? Oh the pain. Wink

    Seriously though, I'm sorry to hear that things have been going so badly. Your one of the blogs I keep track of on here, simply because I've read about your predicament and am worried for your sake.

    However, I am glad that you haven't fallen off the face of the internet. Hang in there!

  13. Homebody Says:

    The problem with facebook is finding each other. We don't know real names. Boomeyer found me somehow and she hooked me up with others.

  14. Broken Arrow Says:

    Wow, I can't believe I've made a "your" and "you're" typo. I'm acutely aware of that particular one (among others), and yet, there it is. Oops!

  15. campfrugal Says:

    Homebody, Boomeyer found me also. She is a good researcher.

  16. frugaltexan75 Says:

    I second that - Boo is a good researcher. Smile

    I'm so sorry to hear that things are going so badly. When I lost my benefits paying job, the only thing that kept me going was having the job at the gym. Otherwise, I might have fallen into an extreme depression.

    I admire you for not letting your husbands inaction cause you to think of heading for greener pastures.

  17. boomeyers Says:

    Thanks everyone for the overwhelming support!!
    I will try to start posting again. I guess one misconception I have to clear up it that DH is WORKING (per se) he is just not GETTING PAID for it!! To me this is all the worse, because he could be working at a PAYING job which is what I am working on with him!!

    BA- when I went to look you up, it directed me to someone named Tabitha. Eh?

  18. Thrifty Ray Says:

    Oh are my cyber sis indeed! I am so sorry you are going through this!! Just know we are there for you in whatever capacity we can be...

    BA...whats the scoop??? Tabitha? Join us there if you want, we'd enjoy FBing with you!!!

  19. Jerry Says:

    It is really hard when someone loses a job, and there is no question that it can lead to depression. If you haven't yet, it might be worth looking into - support and love are vital, of course, but (all by themselves) they can't always offer any insurance of fixing a clinical issue. Good luck and hang in there!

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